Infertility in Quarantine #NIAW 2020

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By now, COVID-19 has likely affected everyone in the world to some extent. While some families are feeling the tension of being confined altogether for a prolonged and indefinite period of time, others are grieving loved ones in isolation. Churches are livestreaming their services online. Celebrations and funerals alike are being cancelled or postponed indefinitely. Our essential workers are working longer, harder hours while many others are facing financial distress due to job loss. We’re all trying to find a new “normal” while hoping this is temporary.

COVID-19 is uniquely impacting the infertility community. All around the Internet, there are stories of cancelled fertility treatments, women miscarrying with no family support, cancelled baby showers, and partners unable to attend long-awaited ultrasound appointments to hear their miracle babies’ heartbeats for the first time.

For some of the infertility community, the anxiety, isolation, and financial uncertainty of this pandemic are painfully familiar. Others are finding peace and gratitude during this extra time at home with their spouses or children.

National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) is April 19th-25th this year. These twelve infertility warriors are raising awareness quarantine style by sharing the good and bad of how COVID-19 is affecting them.

Dani | primary infertility

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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
My husband & I just got to our 10 month mark our doctor gave us after getting my endo removed. We were hopeful in that 10 months the endo removal would lead to pregnancy but since it hadn’t, we scheduled an OB appointment to discuss next steps. Leading up to this appointment I felt so torn as to which direction God was leading me and if I was being asked to continue to wait & be patient or if starting treatment was where I was being called to next. COVID came along & all appointments were canceled which means waiting & being patient for the time being is our only option. As a believer I know this is no coincidence, and am confidently taking it as God telling me my chapter here is not yet finished. Quarantine can be challenging, especially when there is no end in sight. It has reminded me a lot of the journey of infertility; we have no idea where we’re being led, but we trust the one who is leading and as we continue to wait, we cling onto hope for a better tomorrow.

Brittany | mother after infertility

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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
We have to put off our plans for another transfer indefinitely. There is too much uncertainty right now. I’m struggling with anxieties surrounding keeping my family safe, including my current little IVF miracle. It breaks my heart having to keep him from our parents who waited just as long to be grandparents. As much as I would love to give our boy a sibling, I’m not comfortable pursuing another FET at this time.

Angela | mother after infertility

Blogger at While in Waiting

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my child

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
Being an extrovert I love being surrounded by others. Being home non stop and not going anywhere has been a huge change of pace for us. It’s been good to help me learn to slow down and be more present with my miracle baby.

Elena | secondary infertility | mother after primary infertility

Blogger at Baby Ridley Bump
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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my child

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
It makes me wonder when we have the opportunity to transfer again. Hoping that it will still be able to happen this year. It’s an unprecedented hurdle I don’t think anyone ever considered or prepared for.

Arden | mother after infertility

Blogger at Hello Warrior

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my child

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
Isolation brings me back to a place of feeling alone even though I have a great support system

Danielle | primary infertility

Blogger at Expectant Faith To Be

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my spouse

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
It has put our plans on hold for the time being! We are hoping to adopt domestically or by embryo adoption! So financially and because of the quarantine, everything just naturally has to pause unfortunately! However, I have taken this time to be the best homemaker and wife that I can be. It has been such a positive and grateful experience to serve my home both domestically and spiritually during this time! I’ve been able to solely focus on my husband and home which in turn is preparing my heart even more for babies and building our family! Kari Jobe’s new song “The Blessing” is the theme song of our life right now! I am truly finding peace and joy during this time of uncertainty! My mind and heart can discern clearly on the plans and blessings ahead! I hope others are able to lay in the lap of Jesus and embrace their purpose throughout this time so that they can be rooted when all of this is over! Same for me, too!


Kari Jobe, The Blessing

Victoria | secondary infertility | mother after primary infertility

Blogger at Expecting Anything

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my spouse, my child

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?

It’s just another hurdle put in the way of dreams coming true, but nothing we can’t handle. It’s been a good time to pause and reset.

Corine | primary infertility

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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
Anxiety and fear of the unknown. Right now, our IVF cycle is on schedule for June-July… but I fear that the longer the pandemic lasts, my cycle will be extended further out. I’ve already had to wait 16+ months, and I don’t want to wait any longer than that to start our family.

Sadie | mother after infertility

Creator of Good Grief fertility prompt journals

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse
What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
My husband and I recently had our miracle IVF baby, but quarantine has us both feeling like we are back in the trenches of infertility. Stuck, future uncertain, nervous, anxious, worried about finances, etc. We are grateful to know that because we made it through one hard thing together, we can make it through another. For all those still waiting, keep going. You can make it through all of this.

Bethany | mother after infertility

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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse, my child

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
I struggled for years to get my miracle baby and finally have him but a week after having him, the world went mad and we were quarantined which has left this postpartum period and newborn life very difficult! With appointments cancelled and trips to introduce my baby to family cancelled. I longed for this experience and now that I’m here I’m feeling so isolated and unable to share my baby with others and lack the support I need.

Kelsi | primary infertility

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Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
My spouse

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
Honestly, waiting & cancellations have become a normal. So having our FET cancelled due to this virus doesn’t feel surprising. It’s weird how you get “used” to the let downs.

Jalina | mother after infertility

Blogger at This Side of If

Who in your family unit has been home more than usual due to quarantine/shelter-in-place guidelines?
Myself, my children

What challenges, thoughts, or feelings has quarantine brought up in relation to your infertility journey?
Unmet expectations. I’m newly postpartum after three miscarriages in 2019. The celebration of Easter- the hope of an eternal life free of suffering- brought me so much comfort last year that I was excited to celebrate the holiday this year with our church family and newest rainbow baby. My faith brought me so much comfort through recurrent miscarriage that I knew I wanted our rainbow baby dedicated as soon as possible. With churches closed throughout April, neither of these expectations were met. My husband is also an essential worker, so instead of being home with our new baby, he has been working 6 long days a week. This isn’t what we imagined postpartum with our deeply-desired rainbow baby would be. Sometimes the thought comes to mind that if one of our miscarried babies survived, my husband would have had more time at home with them. Trying to protect and care for my newborn (and two other young children) during a pandemic while my husband works extra hours has been overwhelming at times.

National Infertility Awareness Week is hosted each year by RESOLVE: The National Infertility Assosiation. RESOLVE offers infertility support and opportunities to support the infertility community. For more information on NIAW and what you can do to get involved, visit InfertilityAwareness.org

 

Previous NIAW posts on This Side of If:

3 Simple Steps to Uncovering Infertility in YOUR Community #InfertilityUncovered #NIAW 2019

13 Easy Ways You Can #FliptheScript on Infertility #NIAW 2018


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